The Importance of ‘Me’ Time

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The other day, I was driving home with Finn in his carseat and I heard it – silence. The radio was off, Finn was watching the trees out the window, and my mind was turned off. I savored it. I took the long way home. Nowadays, getting time to myself, without the noise of life in the background is pretty rare. I love the chaos. I love watching Finn chase Juneau around and hearing David sing his silly jingles from the next room. But I love the ‘me’ time, too.

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We all have those days where the TV feels a little too loud, and those squeals and yells and songs become more of an annoyance than a joy. I was feeling those days quite a bit last month and I started resenting the very noises that should bring me joy. I sat down with David and we carved out a plan. Mama needs her ‘me’ time.

We all need a little time alone and I’d argue that moms may need the time more than anyone else. I love my people, but they’re

always around! I have always found peace in the silence. Since I can remember, writing in a journal – or this blog, watching a movie alone, or going on a long run have always been my way of unwinding. Finding that ‘me’ time is important for so many reasons.

Stress Relief

Stress is the biggest illness in my life right now. When it hits, I can feel it in my body. I get lethargic, achey, and irritable. I’ve come to recognize the signs and I have to make a conscience effort to reduce it. When I started to read about the effects of stress on my body, I was shocked. I immediately started wondering what I could do to reduce it.

 

I made a list of things that make me feel better and more focused – Hit the gym. Meditate. Write down your thoughts. Read a book. Go for a drive with the radio off. Silence is a gift. Embrace it. With these practices come one huge reward – lower stress and a healthier lifestyle. I can’t tell you how much better I feel after blowing off some steam at the gym or even locking myself in the bedroom for an hour so I can read a good book. When you are aware of the impacts on your health you will start recognizing the triggers. Reducing stress has become the number one priority in my life simply because when I am stress-free I am a better mother and a better wife.

Perspective

I took advantage of nap time the other morning and went grocery shopping by myself. The moment I parked, water filled my eyes. I missed my boys! They always go shopping with me! It’s moments like this that make the tough moments worth it. I left feeling relieved that I could sneak away and came home excited to spend time with my family. A little perspective does the mind good.

Appreciation

In the same vein, getting some ‘me’ time can also help you appreciate the craziness that is life! Silence is golden, but so is the sound of little feet running around. Being by myself allows me to appreciate the silence and being with my family lets me appreciate them.

Alternatively, I always find that I’m much more appreciated after I disappear for a few hours! Mama does a lot, doesn’t she?! 😉

I have been reflecting a lot on how my body reacts to stress and carving out a bit of ‘me’ time each day. Whether it be for a few hours or few minutes, I’m recognizing that the awareness alone has helped to reduce my stress, give me perspective, and gain a lot of appreciation for all that I have!

So go out and get some ‘me’ time today! You deserve it!

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Life Lately – August 31, 2017

Life Lately August 31 2017 - Find out what's been going on in Finn's world, our fall plans and our trip to Colorado in a few weeks!

And just like that, we are staring at Labor Day weekend. This summer was one of my favorites. Finn adds a new level of fun to our lives and gives us an excuse to spend more time outside at the pool or the park or just walking around town. Looking back to the beginning of summer, it’s crazy how much he has changed.

We are still knee deep in the house hunting process, but we are being patient, waiting for the right home to find us. We had our hearts broken a few times so we needed to reset and realize we aren’t in any kind of hurry.

Finn

Oh this boy, he just melts me. He is talking so much more and is just so smart. He learns something new daily. Yesterday he signed something at me and I was like “umm where did you learn that child?”. He picks up on things that I don’t even realize.

One of his favorite activities as of late – besides our daily walks to see the mm-birds– is going to Wegman’s and watching the Choo Choo Train. He gets excited as soon as we park and we spend more time in the cheese section watching the train than actually grocery shopping.

Vision Board Guide

I have created my first product for Simple & Inspired and it’s totally FREE! I wrote a post about creating a vision board, and we have one in our living room. Each day we walk by it and we are reminded of what we want out of life. I have had a lot of conversations with people about vision boards and the power of attraction, so I created a helpful guide that will help you create your own. If you’re interested, sign up here!

Travel

As a 30th birthday gift to David, we are heading to Colorado in a few weeks so he can fish. And while he fishes, I get to spend time with my sisters and Natalie. Finn is making the trip with us as well. This won’t be his first time flying, but I’m just as nervous. We went to Colorado when he was six weeks old, but the kid slept the whole time. I know that won’t be the case this time, so I’m open to any advice you may have for keeping a crazy 16-month old child busy on a plane for 3-4 hours.

What I’m Watching

If you know me, you know my dirty secret is my absolute love for reality TV. It’s sick. I watch it, I listen to podcasts about it, I read blogs and spoilers about it. Anything on Bravo, MTV, CBS, you name it. (I recently fell off the Bachelor bandwagon though and if you have to ask why, you aren’t paying attention. Snore.)

This summer, I’ve been binge watching old seasons of Survivor. Why? I don’t know! I put the first season on one day on a whim and got hooked. Hulu has season 1, and then season 12-present for free. I have made it through to season 26 as of right now. Am I embarrassed? A little. But it’s also made up for a less than mediocre season of Big Brother (which I also love but am so bored with right now) and has introduced me to a bunch of new podcasts. I know, I’m a dork.

Fall Plans

I recently looked at our calendar and realized that this fall is set to be a little crazy, in all the best ways. Already on our calendar we have: a trip to Colorado, a UVA football game, a girls night in Wintergreen followed by a beer festival, a visit from my parents, a wedding in Boston, David has three trips for work: Las Vegas, Raleigh, and DC. Whew! I’m already exhausted just thinking about it.

In between our crazy lives I’m also re-launching my agency (coming Oct. 2) with my buddy and biz partner. We’ve been working hard so stay tuned! So excited. In addition, we have all the typical fall plans like pumpkin carving, picking out Finn’s Halloween costume, making yummy chili, watching football and beating my entire family in Fantasy Football.

Our Life in iPhone Photos

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watching daddy fish
Life Lately August 31 2017 - Find out what's been going on in Finn's world, our fall plans and our trip to Colorado in a few weeks!
finn met our friends’ puppy tilly last week and we all melted
Life Lately August 31 2017 - Find out what's been going on in Finn's world, our fall plans and our trip to Colorado in a few weeks!
me, my dude, and this view
Life Lately August 31 2017 - Find out what's been going on in Finn's world, our fall plans and our trip to Colorado in a few weeks!
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Life Lately August 31 2017 - Find out what's been going on in Finn's world, our fall plans and our trip to Colorado in a few weeks!
learning to say ‘bubble’
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looking fly in his new hoodie

Happy last day of August!

PS. My mom wardrobe must-have and Things I’m Loving, Vol. 3

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Life Lately – August 15, 2017

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I had another post scheduled and ready to go for today, but I thought it was appropriate to touch on some of the events that happened in our hometown this weekend.

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Charlottesville

Many of you know that we live in Charlottesville and have proudly made it home. David and his family grew up here, and he is a proud Charlottesvillian. I moved here permanently three years ago and I fell in love with this town almost as much as I fell in love with the man I met here.

I won’t get political. I doubt that will solve any of the world’s problems. However, I will say that Charlottesville is a truly lovely place. The people here are kind and friendly, they are proud of their town and the culture that is deeply engrained in it. I am looking forward to buying a piece of land and raising my family here. This town has so much to offer to so many people.

If you’ve never been, you should consider visiting. We have so much history – the homes of Thomas Jefferson, James Madison and James Monroe are here. The University of Virginia is breathtakingly beautiful, the food scene is tremendous, and there is a new winery/brewery/cidery that pops up almost weekly.

It’s strange to see this little town at the center of the universe right now. I am still working through my feelings on all of this, and frankly, I’m grateful that Finn is still too young to question what is going on.

However, if he were to ask me one day about what happened here this weekend, I will tell him this – hate only spurs more hate. Be kind to people. Stand up for the underdog. Be smart in your decisions and do not let the actions of one determine your reaction. Smile more, hold the door open for strangers, and let the small things slide off of your shoulders. You will not like everyone that you cross paths with, but you must try to understand everyone. We all have a story and a history, so instead of hating someone for being or believing differently, try to listen to what they have to offer. We all have the ability to learn from one another.

Okay, onto other much more trivial things in our life 🙂

What I’m Watching

My friend, Morgan, introduced me to the show Wentworth. It takes place in an Australian women’s prison, but before you compare this to Orange is the New Black, think again. Wentworth is soooo good, dare I say the best show I’ve ever watched? I binged the entire series over the last month or two, and after gushing about it, David has started to watch it – and he is hooked! Even he thinks it’s one of the best shows he’s ever watched. You HAVE to check it out! It’s on Netflix, btw.

Finn

Finn is going to be 15 months old this Saturday! Can you believe it?! He is walking and talking and pointing. He is truly becoming a little toddler and it’s so fun to watch. Finn’s newest obsession are the geese that live at the pond behind our house. He points to them and calls them “mmm-birds”. (I’ve been Snapchatting/Instastorying these encounters regularly so be sure to follow!)

Other Stuff

David and I were traveling for work last week, separately and at different times, so it was a pretty hectic time. I traveled to Norfolk to film a story about a 17 month old who had a heart transplant shortly after birth. Talk about heartbreaking! Fortunately she is doing wonderfully and several of my co-workers and I made a day of it. We stayed at The Founders Inn and enjoyed a nice dinner and a lot of girl talk before going to bed early. I needed a night away!

David left for DC on Thursday and came back on Saturday. We dropped the babe off with my in-laws and headed to Veritas Winery for Starry Nights. It ended up downpouring so we left early, but we had a nice date night together!

David’s 30th birthday is this Saturday! Stayed tuned for some celebratory posts!

Our Life in iPhone Photos:

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pre-rain shower fun at starry nights with some of the best friends ever. shop my dress (similar) and shoes.
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saw this huge prehistoric creature on the side of the road. david and i had to stop and take a picture!
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finn watching the “mmm-birds”
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a casual work look from last week. jeans are on major sale! this sweater is so cozy! these loafers are my fave.
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finn and i went to the fair a few weeks ago. he loved all the animals, but was especially into the cows.
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i love this view!
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a day at the playground with my dude.

Happy Tuesday! Spread some kindness today 🙂

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Reflections on this Season of Life

The last few weeks I feel like I’ve really hit my groove. Somewhere amongst the busy mornings trying to get out the door and the late nights cuddled on the couch watching Big Brother with David, I realized that I’ve been feeling quite content lately. Throughout most of my twenties, I felt like there was always something more to reach for or work towards. For years I’ve felt like something was missing, and didn’t really know what that thing was.

I came to the realization that I’ll be 30 in just six months, and instead of dread, I feel quite accomplished. I have a strong marriage, a beautiful son, a loyal pup, a loving family, a steady job, and a growing blog and business.

The last few months I have prioritized this blog and the social media outlets that accompany it. The growth has been slow, but steady, and this outlet fills my soul with joy and pride. I often bump into people who mention my blog and how much they enjoy it – whether it be a peer who enjoys my style or a distant relative who just likes to keep up with us! It’s a simple thing, but it makes me so happy! I love being a “blogger”.

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Years ago, I would have thought that being a young working mom would’ve been boring! My Friday nights usually dragged into Saturday mornings and I was soaking up every ounce of the day. Nowadays, Friday nights in are my favorite, and quality time with my family is more fun than any party I’m invited to. This season of life suits me well. I enjoy the stability, the lack of drama, the consistency.

dress – old navy (comes in 9 colors/patterns and as low as $10 – you need like 4 of these this summer!)

I really think that Finn’s age has me feeling great as well. He is so much fun these days. He is learning, chatting, walking. I can’t believe how much he has grown and I am really enjoying this age. Everything he does makes me smile, and that’s no exaggeration. From playing in Juneau’s water dish, to pointing at all the “mmbuurrds” (birds) in the trees, he is the sweetest boy. Even his tantrums make me laugh because they are just so darn ridiculous!

I know the future holds more children, a new home, and no doubt some hard times, so before that stress sets in, I’m letting myself enjoy. It’s nice to reflect on your life in the moment and realize you ain’t doing too bad.

Just some random thoughts for ya!

PS. Madewell Bellflower Ruffle Dress and How to Fascinate

xoxo

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Life Lately – July 26, 2017

Holy last week in July! Where has the time gone?! I just had a reminder on Facebook this week that a year ago I went back to work after maternity leave. I can’t believe it! They weren’t lying when they said that once you have kids life just flies by.

A lot has been going on in the Gregory household lately. We were on vacation last week and came home to a broken air conditioner – yikes! I don’t know why I forget each year, but summer in Virginia is no joke. It’s brutally hot and there is no escaping it. Poor Juneau can only last outside long enough for a bathroom break before he wants to escape to our apartment.

All this hot weather has me dreaming of fall. I can’t wait for crisp mornings and sweaters! Plus, in case you missed it (and I’m sure you haven’t) the fall clothing I ordered from the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale makes me crave fall even more!

Finn

My little baby is growing right in front of my face. I love watching him learn new things. He constantly surprises me with what he does – for example, he brought me my sandals the other day and helped me put them on my feet. Such a small thing, but the fact that he knew the concept behind wearing shoes just blows my mind! Haha!

House Hunting

This is harder than anyone told me! Unfortunately our offer was denied on the last house I mentioned, but we are staying positive. It just wasn’t meant to be! We are keeping an eye out but we don’t want to let this process stress us out. Buying a house is a huge decision and there is no reason to rush it. We will find the perfect house for our family. Like David and I always say, things always work out!

Vacation

Last week, my parents, both of my sisters, my niece, David, Finn and I traveled to Fairfield, Pennsylvania to watch my cousin get married to the sweetest girl. It was a beautiful wedding and it was wonderful catching up with family. We got to meet my other cousin’s son, Miles, too. It’s nice to have another baby boy in the family.

We stayed a few days after the wedding and we were able to visit nearby Gettysburg and the Baltimore Aquarium. We did the driving tour of Gettysburg, which was awesome. I highly recommend it, whether you’re a history buff or not. The Aquarium was a huge hit with the babies. Finn stood around looking at the fish with his mouth wide open. This boy is going to love the water just like his daddy!

Emily and Natalie headed back to Charlottesville with us on Wednesday and we spent the rest of the week relaxing around town. It was so nice to spend some quality time with them.

Our Life in iPhone Photos

Swinging with Finn at the rehearsal dinner. My dress is available here.
OMG, my heart! Look how grown up he looks!
Swimming with my dude. Thanks to Grammy for tracking down Finn’s life jacket.
My little family outside of the Baltimore Aquarium. My dress is still available and under $15!
A Gettysburg sunset.
Finn and Aunt Sarah at the beautiful wedding venue.
Phillips Seafood. Had the best meal here with my family!
My besties and our babes. PS. I did an entire post on this dress. Read it here.
Grammy and Finn playing Wiggles! (Aka when you say “Wiggles” Finn throws his hands in the air.)

Hope you have an awesome Wednesday!

 

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