We have a tendency as human beings to wish away time. The ironic thing is, as soon as we do, we wish that time hadn’t passed so quickly. Sometimes, you have to remind yourself to stop and smell the roses. Because seriously, time flies whether you’re having fun or you’re not, so why not try to enjoy it!
A year ago, I remember crying to a coworker about how I was “in the hardest season of my life.” In reality, I was depressed and pregnant and probably hot cause Virginia in August is the worst. I remember her looking at me – also a mom of two – and nodding. The next day she came in with a basket full of goodies and I cried some more, this time because of her thoughtfulness.
At that point in time, I was anxiously awaiting the arrival of my baby girl. I had just bought a house. I was working fulltime in a dead end job. David and I seemed to be passing in the night. I was looking for a way out. Little did I know, everything would change as soon as I stopped feeling bad for myself and started to take action.
The point is, everyone has bad days, bad weeks, bad months. It’s how you react to it that really makes a difference. You can sit around and feel sorry for yourself for a year (like I did) or you can embrace what you’ve been given and take a leap of faith.
When you stop letting life happen to you and start taking control, it’s crazy how much easier it is when you are dealt a bad hand. You feel prepared. You feel like you have a plan.
Pay attention to the things that bring you joy, and actually do them. Wake up early and schedule out your day. Celebrate the small wins, and definitely celebrate big ones!
Things, in theory, should have gotten harder for me when Reese was born. However, it was in having her that I was given the clarity that I needed – that I needed to stop and slow down and realize that these are the days. Instead of feeling bad for myself, I woke up feeling grateful for all the things I was given. I remember early on thanking little Reese for allowing me to watch an entire episode of Game of Thrones completely uninterupted. On that day, it was exactly what I needed.
All this to say, if you’re going through a hard time, stop pushing back. Embrace where you are. Understand that whatever it is, it will pass. And if you are in a wonderful season of life, embrace it even more! Take lots of pictures and write down the memories!