How Many Kids Do You Want To Have?

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Now that I’m part of the motherhood club, I find myself having different conversations and different beliefs than I did when I was younger. Being a mother have certainly changed my perspective on things and I find that there is a new bucket of topics that I have an opinion on. I thought these sorts of topics would be a fun thing to include on the blog since I’d really love this to be more of a conversation than me talking through your screen. 🙂 This isn’t meant to include the non-moms at all. In fact, I think your perspective is equally as important and interesting and I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Today’s topic is a question I find myself debating the answer to day in and day out.

How many kids do you want to have?

Growing up, my answer would have always been THREE! I am the middle of three girls and I thought that was the perfect family size. Even up until I had Finn I thought it would be The Gregorys, Party of 5. Nowadays, however, I’m not so sure.

Okay, let me take a step back first. There were moments throughout pregnancy where I thought to myself “wait, people do this more than once? And then you’re supposed to feel this way and take care of another kid?!”. Not looking forward to those days…

But once we had Finn our world changed so drastically. There have even been days where I thought Finn might be an only child because I don’t have the patience, the energy, or the time of day to be a mom of more than one, let alone be a good mom to more than one.

So, what’s my answer? I think David and I have settled on two kiddos. Of course, this is open for discussion and nothing is set in stone. However, we’d love to be able to give our children great lives and that means taking into account our lifestyle, our career ambitions, our finances and our sanity :). We want our children to be involved in clubs and sports and we’d like to be able to watch them do those things! We want to travel with them and introduce them to new places. With all of that in mind, two kids sounds like the perfect number.

Realistically, giving Finn a brother or a sister is a strange idea. Just like bringing him into the world, a new child will bring challenges and adventures that we will face together as a family. It’s an exciting thought!

PS. No, I’m not pregnant 🙂

So tell me, how many kids do you want? And if you have kids, do you think you’ll have more? Did you think you’d have less?

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  1. When I was growing up I wanted 10 children. As an adult I realized that was unrealistic. When Chris and I discussed having four children. However, when child number 3 came into our lives we said we are done. Then four years later we find out we are pregnant again. So we ended up with four beautiful children. Three boys and a girl. Have times been rough? Yes, but I wouldn’t change a thing!

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