Finn at Six Months

I’m a few days late on this post! Between finishing things up at work before Thanksgiving and our little man battling a wicked cough and cold, we’ve been quite busy and exhausted!

Happy Half Birthday, Finn man! Thanks for being the best part of our day! Here’s a little update on what you were doing right around your six month mark:

Parenting

I did a deep dive on this in last week’s post, in case you missed it!

Physical Growth

Officially, Finn weighs in at 18lbs 9oz – the boy is growing! I no longer find it reasonable to carry him in his carrier – unless he has fallen asleep in it. He is living on the hip at this point. Finn decided a few weeks ago that he wanted to sit up, and since then laying down is just not his cup of tea. This does make it more fun to go grocery shopping with him since he can sit in the front of the cart. He loves watching everyone and everything!

Finn’s bottom teeth poked in just after his five month mark, and he has been battling his top teeth for a few weeks now. You can feel them, but we haven’t seen them yet. Tylenol has been our friend lately. Come on teeth!

The kid is also really long – 27 inches! He was just short of 22 inches at birth. I looked at him in the bath the other night and thought, ‘wow kid, you’re a lengthy one! His little feet almost reach the edge of his carseat already!

Brain Growth

Finn is very curious. He went through a chatty phase, but now he is more subdued and wants to take in as much as he can. He loves to reach for his toys and grab them – everything goes right to his mouth. He has also started to realize when mom or dad aren’t around. He starts to wail until we are back in sight. This makes car rides really fun… not. Finn loves to read and he loves when we sing. I think we’ve made a jingle about every mundane thing that we do throughout the day.

Sleeping

I read something recently – “Teething is mother nature’s practical joke. Just when you get your little one to sleep through the night, they start growing teeth.” This couldn’t be more true. We did get about two months of uninterrupted sleep, and to be honest, it’s really not that bad even now. Finn doesn’t exactly wake up, he just moans a bit and gets restless. Usually this means turning on some white noise. I hate to say it, but we’ve been quite spoiled with this one. He is a good sleeper. The only problem is that makes it hard when he does have a bad night!

Eating

Oh, how I love feeding Finn solids! It may be the funnest thing we do. He has gotten so good at opening his mouth and keeping everything inside of it. We’ve tried a variety of different foods – peaches seem to be the favorite at this point. He is also really interested in watching us eat. He stares down the food whenever we have something on the plate and move it to our mouth. So funny!

Things I don’t want to forget:

  • When Finn is being held by one of us, he searches for the other one. When he sees us, he gives us the biggest smile! He is such a happy kid.
  • I love that Finn can sit up now, but he can’t get to the sitting position without help. He know has started to do what resembles crunches whenever he is laying flat. He doesn’t get frustrated, just determined. It’s the funniest thing.
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Motherhood Check-in: Six Months

I cannot believe I’ve been a mother for 6 months! Time continues to fly by, and life just continues to move forward. I think the Gregorys have found our new normal, and we are getting through the days a lot easier than we were three months ago. Being a mom has certainly changed me. I worry so much more than I did when I didn’t have a little life to take care of, but I think I’ve become more patient and I certainly have a deeper understanding of love.

I caught myself referring to Finn as “my son” the other day, and I realized I hadn’t used that phrase before. I typically call him Finn, or even “my baby”, but “my son” had a different tone to it – one that stuck with me long after the conversation had ended.

I’m not sure what it is about that phrase, but maybe it’s the reality of Finn being a real, live, human being. That might sound silly, but calling him “baby” limits him to the little baby that he is now. “My son” allows me to think of all the different phases of his life as he grows. I’ve already watch him grow from a tiny infant to a chatty 6-month-old, who is developing quite the personality. What happens in the next six months? Who will he be a year from now? How will I feel on his first day of school?

It’s safe to say that motherhood has a steep learning curve. Most days I don’t have enough time to sit and think about how I feel because there’s always something to do. I’d say though, that over the last few months I’ve learned a few things:

  1. Nobody really knows anything for sure – we are all just guessing. When Finn has a fussy day, we find ourselves running through the options of what it could be. Need a nap? Teething? Fever? Growth spurt? We try pretty much everything until something works. The best part? If it worked one day, it may not work the next. Car rides used to put Finn to sleep, but now he hates his carseat. The one thing that has consistently been a life saver? Lady Gaga Paparazzi Lullaby. It’s hilarious! It’s like the music puts Finn into a trance and he quiets down. Sometimes it takes playing it through 10 times, but eventually he will fall asleep. Thank you Gaga!
  2. Your body will bounce back eventually. Gosh, those first few months were tough. I wasn’t sleeping, I wanted to eat all the food, and I felt horrible about my self image. I’m feeling good these days. Clothes fit again and I have energy back. I’m still breastfeeding, so that’s the worst, but all-in-all, mama’s got her groove back. LOL.
  3. Breastfeeding – it’s not for the faint at heart. I always wanted to breastfeed, but I was not realistic about how hard it would be. Finn and I weren’t good at nursing for whatever reason, but we made it through an entire month before I introduced a bottle. The bottle was my saving grace. We realized Finn wasn’t eating enough while nursing, so we had to supplement. Talk about a blow to the ego. Nothing like kicking me when I’m down, mother nature. But supplementing was what my baby needed, so I had to get over the insecurities quickly. (Side note – why does that make mom’s insecure to begin with? Is it the fear of judgment from others? Can’t we all just accept that we gotta do what we gotta do?) Now that Finn has teeth, I’m pumping exclusively. I told myself I’d go six months – but now that I’m here, I am gonna try for two more!
  4. Dads have needs, too. Gosh, I feel bad for dads sometimes. The moms get all the attention, all the sympathy. The dads seem to get lost in the background. It took David a few weeks to warm up to the idea of being a dad, and I could tell he was bothered by it. He wanted to feel those feelings, but he wasn’t getting the bonding time that I was. In the last few months I have watched David become more patient, more mature, more helpful, more of pretty much everything. Can we all just give dads a minute of our gratitude? Thanks for doing all of the hard stuff with very little reward! Love you, my man!
  5. You still have to take care of number one. I would be lying if I haven’t had days, even weeks, where I felt out of sorts and stuck in a funk. I think a lot of it has to do with our new routined lifestyle. Finn is in bed by 7pm every night, so to avoid getting off schedule, that means we are pretty much at home by then every. single. day. It’s boring some days. It’s easy to start feeling down when this is the way you feel. A few weeks back I told myself I’d do one thing each week that would take me out of my comfort zone. Not surprisingly, most of those things involve some sort of exercise class. Spin, barre, yoga. When I put myself first and prioritize my health, I’m a better mom and a better wife. Thankfully I have a husband who understands that about me and is willing to get some one-on-one time with his little man.

What have you learned as a new mom?

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The Best Advice I Received as a New Mom

Any new mom will tell you that there is an abundance of information and advice out there. It’s almost overwhelming. There’s way too many people who think they have the answer. As I enter my sixth month of motherhood, I’m realizing that no one truly knows it all. Even if they look like they have their shit together, they don’t.

If I had to weed through all the crap and find the best advice I’ve received so far it would be that every baby is an individual, and every mom is an individual and what works for one baby or mom, may not work for another. At the end of the day, if you realize that, then you, Mama, are doing a good job.

Like a lot of new moms, I joined Facebook groups and read message boards about how to relieve gas, feeding issues, sleeping tips, and everything in between. But instead of feeling comforted by other moms, I felt overwhelmed and undereducated. It felt like everyone had an answer besides me. I remembered feeling the same way about wedding planning. I was so eager to start choosing colors and deserts and music, but it all got to be a little too much. There was information overload, and I just don’t do well with that.

So, I took a step back and tried to laugh it all off. Is Finn healthy? Yes. Is he growing? Yes. Does he sleep well? Yes. Is he overall a happy baby? Yes. So why am I looking elsewhere for the answers? Clearly, I was doing something right… right? 

At the end of the day, Finn, David and I are all going through this stuff for the first time. And even when we have another baby, we will have to treat him or her like an individual, because they won’t be Finn. The best thing I’ve done for my sanity and my family is to do what works for us. I still need advice, of course, but instead of searching the internet, I turn to my mom and my older sister, and of course, our pediatrician.

The other day one of our friends commented on how Finn must be such a good baby because I’m such a calm person. I wanted to combat that statement immediately because inside my own head, I sure don’t feel calm! But I realized that was the best compliment I could have gotten. Even through all the questioning myself, the overwhelming feelings, and the endless information, I’ve found a way to stay relaxed, and I think it’s due to a little piece of advice I received: I can’t compare Finn or myself to any other baby/mom duo – cause we are two of a kind!
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Halloween 2016

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I’ve never been a Halloween person. For me, the holiday is more or less just a formal beginning to the Holiday Season. Last year on Halloween we celebrated with our friends Brittany and Wheat as they got married in Ohio (Happy Anniversary!). For Halloween 2016, we got to dress up the most adorable little ninja turtle and take lots of pictures!

UVA holds an annual Trick or Treating on the Lawn. After attending this year, it’s safe to say it’s more of a novelty than an actual functional place to get candy. So. Many. People. Maybe it’s because I grew up in the world’s smallest town, but waiting in line for candy just isn’t a good idea. Especially with babies! Come on people! Whatever happened to going house to house?

After we left UVA, we went over to David’s mom’s house for pizza and trick or treaters. Finn had a fun time in his walker making everyone laugh – including himself! Best noise ever.

In any case, our Monday Halloween was very chill. I can’t wait to see what Finn will be next year!

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Life Lately

Happy November! Can you believe it? The last few months – nope, scratch that – the last year has completely flown by! There are times I think to myself “I can’t believe I have a baby” – and now that baby is 5 1/2 months old! Other things I can’t believe? I’ve been at my current job for just over two years! David and I got engaged nearly two years ago! Juneau is almost 6! And Christmas is right around the corner!

So where have I been? What have I been doing? I wish I had some glamorous excuse, but in reality, I’ve just been living my crazy, hectic life as a working mom.

What else has been going on?

  • David finished up his last week at his job before moving back in the defense industry. He’ll have a few weeks off before he starts training, so he is looking forward to fishing a little, building a coffee table for our living room, and spending time with Finn! I’m so excited for him to get back into his dream career and I think daily how lucky we are to be at this place in our lives. It’s like everything we wished for while we were living in Indy has come true!
  • Finn started rolling both ways – for a while, he could get to his belly, but couldn’t quite figure out how to get back. This past weekend he mastered rolling both ways. Phew! What. A. Struggle. He’s also been teething non-stop the last few weeks. His two bottom teeth have poked through, now we are awaiting those pesky top teeth which have been making his nose stuffy for a while now!
  • Finn survived his first Halloween. More to come tomorrow, but he was such a cute little man!
  • Wegmans is opening in Charlottesville! And it’s literally 5 minutes from our apartment. I’m totally planning on going to the grand opening Sunday morning at 7am. I’ve waiting my whole life to live this close to a Wegmans. Growing up, we were a good 20 minutes away. Even in college, it was on the other side of town. Now, it will be right around the corner. So excited!

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